3rd House in Astrology: How Our Parent’s Attitude Affects Our Mindset

3rd House in Astrology

3rd house represents our mindset.  In this post we’ll explore how our horoscope shows the interconnection between our parents’ attitude and our own mindset.

Our Mindset & Our Parent’s Attitude at Work
3rd house represents our parent’s attitude toward work (3rd house is the derivative 6th of 10th house).  A man who grew up seeing his father working two jobs every day and hating it, realized one day that he was always exhausted working 60-70 hrs a week, working 2 jobs and hating it – just like his father.

Upon exploring this correlation, he realized that his underlying attitude was always that of “No matter how hard I work, what I do is not enough” which resulted in a defeated mindset and working too hard for too little reward, which was what he saw his father do.

By working on reversing this thought pattern (replacing “what I do isn’t enough – I’m not enough” with “I deserve to succeed – I am enough“), he began to value himself – and his talent – more, which resulted in increased sales and self confidence (check out other Helpful Affirmations related to each of the 12 houses.)

Our Mindset & Our Parent’s Hidden Weaknesses
3rd house is the derivative 12th (secret & self-undoing) of the 4th house (home, family, parent.)  Our family’s secrets, as well as hidden self-destructive tendencies of our parents (one or both) deeply shaped our mindset.  It’s quite common to see children adopting disempowering thought patterns from their parents well into adulthood (studies have shown that daughters of depressed mothers have a higher risk of developing depression themselves.)

If one or both of our parents took refuge in escapist behaviors (12th house) such as drinking, overeating or abandonment, we may find ourselves preferring to avoid difficult situations altogether in life, adopting a passive, escapist attitude.

If we saw our parents fail in work or marriage through self destructive behaviors (self-undoing), it’ll be crucial for us to be able to separate their failures from our mindset, so that we do not take on a defeatist attitude.

Summary

If the 3rd house is under tension (through planets in or ruling it), it’s worthwhile exploring our parents’ attitude toward work and their hidden weaknesses, and ask ourselves if we’ve unconsciously assimilated their thought patterns and behaviors into our mindset.

Often, realizing the connection between our thought patterns and that of our parents could be powerful enough to initiate the change of mindset for the better.

How does your mindset reflect your parents’ behaviors and attitudes, and does your 3rd house show it in some way?  Did you have to make an effort to develop a more positive mindset? Please feel free to share your experience via email or in the comment section.

About Hiroki Niizato

Hiroki Niizato is a professional consulting astrologer in Florida, serving clients in US and abroad. He has been a practitioner of Eastern meditation path since 1997, and has been practicing astrology professionally since 2001. Hiroki is a highest honor graduate of the demanding Master’s Degree Certification Course in Astrology by Noel Tyl.

You can contact Hiroki via email at: Hiroki@hniizato.com or Phone: 727-470-4056 to ask a question or schedule a consultation.

Comments

  1. Thank you for this insightful post, Hiroki. What might the interpretation be if there are no planets in the 3rd house, but asteroids (Chiron and Vesta, specifically) show up?

    • Hi Lauren,

      Chiron located in your 3rd house suggests the necessity for healing some wounds in this area. You can also check to see if the ruler of the 3rd house is under tension. Not too sure about Vesta here, but you may want to consider whether your parents’ attitudes reflect the asteroid’s energy (devotion etc).

  2. Hi Hiroki,

    Thank you for such an insightful post :) I have Venus in Aquarius in 3rd house and my 3rd House Ruler Uranus is in the 12th house. What does it mean?

    • Hi Sarah,

      Thanks :) Unless Venus is majorly under stress via hard aspects, this placement suggests a friendly & helpful attitude in relationships. Uranus, ruler of the 3rd, being in the 12th house adds a shade of complexity in that you may feel unsafe about expressing yourself freely, especially if it makes you stand out from others in some way. In the context of this article, you’d be asking yourself what kind of attitude you’ve “inherited” from your parents that may have resulted in you concealing a part of yourself.

  3. Thank you so much Hiroki :) My Venus is square Ascendant and I am not too sure if its interferes with this placement.

  4. I meant it, sorry about the typo:)

  5. Thank you so much Hiroki:)

  6. Natal moon in 3rd house capricorn. What would that mean sir ?

    • Naturally it depends on the condition of your Moon, but this placement suggests a very work-oriented parent. In the case of intensely aspected Moon, there may have been a workaholic tendency displayed by one or both of your parents so that not too much attention was paid to your emotional needs.

  7. Thanks so much for your reply sir.
    I have pluto trine moon. In general, the moment my attention or needs have moved away from work i have suffered heavily so far in life.

    Kind of bad situation as in if i immerse myself in work , i stand accused of ignoring people and then if i take interest in people I am told i should mind my business. Guess my social skills organ do not exist :)

    I have sun in libra in 11th house & venus in scorpio with mercury in 12th house scorpio. Am scorpio ascendant with neptune in scorpio 1st house.

    Thanks for you reply. Touched!

  8. moon 3rd house sucks-i just overeat and abandon work like both my parents

  9. The story at the top falls right in with me, I’m working like a dog as a carer 70 hours a week for very little money, mostly its voluntary and I feel tired all the time. I’m not enjoying what I always believed I would enjoy. I grew up with my mother who worked very hard as an appliqué artist I learned a few things and imagined in ten years I’d have my own factory. I worked in the factorys and couldve been the next production manager but that was after the thatcher years when the production lines started to become a thing of the past! I feel so down things have not gone according to my wishes, but your words have resonated with me, and reminded me of my sister Janines words back in the 80’s when she noticed me screwing my face up at the sink whilst i was doing the washing up, she said what’s the matter? I said I don’t know I was not conscious I was tensing my face. I said maybe its because I don’t like washing up? She said Diane if you have to do something that you don’t like to have to do, just learn to enjoy it! Lol i wanted to laugh at the time but ive had to humble myself and learn that was a more positive view, 30 odd years later here I stand with the same expression on my face at the kitchen sink doing the washing up… Same old same old! Quite Ironic that I should come across this page today but then Saturn is almost at the end of my 6th house of work heading into my relationship zone ;-( about to lay down the limitations in my love life now too!

  10. Thank you very much to your article sir ☻, thogh I don’t have any planets in Third House ~~. Does asteroid count? Because Vertex is here in my chart

    • Vertex is a theoretical point and not an asteroid. Rather than something like vertex, look at the ruler of the third house (ruling planet of the sign on the 3rd house cusp) to assess its condition.

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